A 11-year-old girl asking if there is normal: "I've never had sex '. '
the couple kissing on the playground any more because they have not been in porn, twelve-year-olds have group sex, promiscuity among teenagers is a sporting challenge.
What Bernd Siggelkow, youth pastor and founder of the Berlin Youth Organization "Ark" and the speaker of the device, Wolfgang Büscher have heard is staggering. In the Berlin district of problem- Hellersdorf said the two authors with more than 80 young people about pornography, sexual experiences and the events in his parents' bedroom. 30 stories of young people are recounted in the book "Germany's sexual tragedy."
The Ark is a kind of surrogate family for many young people in Berlin-Hellersdorf. There's a hot meal, place to play, attention from adults, the possibility of holding talks. All this in an environment that allows young people no perspective. Many are school dropouts, even those with a university degree have virtually no chance of an apprenticeship. The path to adulthood for these young people out about sex. Other career opportunities they have not.
Shocking stories
The mother of a 12-year-old told how she got rid of her daughter regularly sent out to boys to bring back home. Together they have then slept with the guys and then swapped partners. Bernd Siggelkow has in the ark a love letter found on nine years of a ten-year-old boy in the offering, the girl with all that is sexually possible. The parents were alarmed no harm: "It's just sex. Is 'normal' "When children grow up in an emotional disaster area, has consequences: A boy tells of a String during the Love Parade. All condoms, which threw him and his buddies from the car, they had previously pierced with a needle. The boy was that funny. In the end he told Siggelkow, that he was 15 years ago fled with his mother in a shelter and there was seduced by another mother.
parents house? No way!
If Siggelkow talks to the parents of the Ark children, almost always with mothers. "Father's not here." In the lower class, the relationship changed long ago: The men are no longer the breadwinner of the family, the state jumps in and makes the partners easy to separate. Only 30% of fathers and 10% of mothers have vocational training. Without a high school degree and no vocational training, there is no realistic chance of a job. On the economic decline following the emotional neglect.
If the parents are not role models for their children, young people seek other idols - on the internet or porn rappers.
girls learn from their mothers: There is no chance to gain recognition, except by sex. Pastor Siggelkow meets mothers, for whom sex is the absolute highlight of their lives. In most cases, the only one. "Sex is what is the other profession, the study, the Sports or playing an instrument -. The opportunity to live and satisfy his own ambition, "writes the magazine" Stern "in the article" full-porn "in February 2007
The Star article was the catalyst for the authors, the book . Leave the young people from problem districts, so Siggelkow and bushes, are protected by the uninhibited behavior of their parents' sexual neglect threatens Many children, especially the "so-called lower class", had early on a screenplay for sex in your head. "The feeling, nothing to be worth to have this man straight meaning to seek confirmation in sexuality, " Siggelkow said.
background music to the neglect
But there are more factors: the afternoon rubbish on commercial TV, talk shows with live paternity tests, this easily accessible porn on the internet and music, with about the label "Aggro" the world has contaminated. Bushido, Sido and Bushido - these are porn black horse, the idols of young people, because many of their songs are not played on the radio, because they are on the index. Sido describes in the song that made him famous, the anal rape of a girl, the text of Bushido's "Gang-Bang" is not quotable, Doctors yells rape fantasies the Micro. The children hear this yet, is traded on the playground with Bluetooth technology from phone to phone. The label Aggro Berlin "has ceased trading in April 2009, but not out of insight:" Today, nine years later, the founder and artist by Aggro Berlin achieved everything that is possible in this context, "may be found on the website .
Bernd Siggelkow has acquired through his many years working with young people and children in the problem areas the confidence to lead such discussions, as recorded in the book. The minister and the journalist Siggelkow Büscher describe the lives of the children and the Conditions in the homes. But solutions are intended only for the children. The mothers and fathers in deprived areas, the authors have given up already.
Stefan Lummer ■
from The GP 10/2009
given in an article in the Augsburger Allgemeine
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